Honestly I don't even think it's worth it to bring anymore attention to it. I don't even disagree with what they say entirely and the way they said it in that post was actually really good, it just kinda gets gross when I start putting it into the context of the stuff they said to me. It was stuff about mental health and not forcing your issues onto others. Again I 100% agree with that, I just think the way they phrase it a lot of the time is SUUUUUPER fucking insensitive. And again, it gets worse when you bring into consideration the stuff they said to me and how they said it, y'know?
Well, yeah. I agree you really SHOULDN'T force your own issues onto someone else, and if you agree with that-that's you. But it get's to the point where, if you, yourself-the one saying you shouldn't push "issues on others", why even bother bringing it up CONSTANTLY? Now, i don't know how they said it, hell=WHAT it said, but whatever it was, I don't like it regardless. And I understand, just-what happened, do you know why they even bothered bringing it up?
It was just like-one of their random text posts. And I would GUESSSS that either something happened in their life recently, OR they saw our conversation before I deleted it and this was their passive aggressive response to it. Or someone else saw it and talked to them. And it was like something along the lines of like "You are not entitled to force your issues on other people, if you want to talk to me I'll listen but you have to ask first." And again I totally agree with that, it's just that the way they phrase it is really inconsiderate. Like a lot of the time when someone 'forces' their issues on you, it's a trauma dump and it's because they're hurting. Like it happens all the time on this site, right? And like-you've seen how I respond to it. I never, NEVER invalidate them or what they go through and I always acknowledge that they're hurt and they should be allowed to express it. And then I politely point out that a public platform where you don't know what others are going through isn't the best place to do it and ask them to delete it. But there's a really big difference between that and what Riv does. They don't bother to consider how vulnerable or raw of an emotional state that person is in, instead they immediately go to shaming them and often invalidating their feelings in the process. They're naturally defensive, and that's ok, but I don't think they know what they're talking about because they just haven't really lived through the stuff the people who have those breakdowns are living through. So it becomes incredibly insensitive. Like calling someone 'Entitled' for having a breakdown? That's really not ok.
Sorry I did NOT mean for that to get so long-
No no, it's alright. You needed to talk yourself-see, I bet if they saw this, they'll use THIS as some excuse. And that's just fucking stupid-imagine walking up to someone metaphorically, and their crying their eyes out. You ask them what's wrong, and when you do they go on for a good 10 minutes about things they NEEDED to get off their chest, and you suddenly tell them, "Your entitled."....Think about it for a second.......exactly-It's fucking STUPID-
EXACTLY. Like if this wasn't an online thing, if these were real life, they'd look like a prick. But because it's online and you can argue "Oh, well you took the time to write that out", and because you have a sense of anonymity, it makes it just words and not the actual people behind them. So it's harder to show compassion with those. But it's just as necessary and considering all of the insulting/passive agressive/outright hurtful posts they've made on here, saying shit like "Well you took the time to write it out" makes them look like a hypocrite.
ANOTHER reason-Just-how many things can we come up with that just MAKE them look horrible? EVERYTHING they do is just, constant whining, insulting, saying shit like, "Oh you took time", or, "DON'T PUSH STUFF ONTO MEEEEE", like a fucking crybaby. I don't mean to be rude=but if you can't handle letting others tell you what's wrong, when they trust you enough to FINALLY tell YOU, out of the literal MILLIONS of people on this site/platform, just-....Don't. ask.
But see here's the difference and here's the point at which I agree with them. Riv didn't ask. And they're 100% right, randomly spilling your guts onto an unsuspecting person? You shouldn't do that. But that's usually being done because the other person is hurting really really badly and they haven't been able to fully express that hurt yet. Riv's right, an unsuspecting person who didn't ask SHOULDN'T be the person you spill your guts too, but people are MESSY and they get HURT and when you're bottling something up, things tend to spill over and come out. And responding by just shaming them or ignoring them just makes that hurt that much worse because now the emotions that they were just able to express are being invalidated. So yes, you should 100% say that you really aren't equipped to deal with this and that you think they should maybe talk to someone else. You DO NOT have to help someone/listen to someone when it isn't something you're capable of helping with or it's something that is hurting you. But you do still have to at the very least acknowledge and respect the fact that they are hurting.