dude you are not even missing out. i have been coerced into stuff several times. you just feel dirty. and most of the time, even if you do want to do it, these women have no idea how to please a man.
work on yourself, become whole and well-rounded. fun is important too, but only when you need it. unless your sister has a ring/LTR i can't imagine she should be giving relationship advice.
the point is to not kinkshame other people. problem with that though is vanilla rarely gets that same respect...
I hear you. I am going to work on myself. I'm going back to working out and trying to be positive. My sister isn't married but I don't think she ever wants to be. Ultimately I think what she says from from petty sibling rivalry. A one-sided one at that. Vanilla stuff like romance and tenderness aren't kink shamed often but the world has really changed. All the time songs are being made that are celebrating wilder stuff. Like painplay and sexual cruelty. People are more into that stuff now, on some level, because anything vanilla is considered boring. Like say kissing, basic sex, and cuddling after. People don't really see you as being open-minded if that's where you stop. Because they see all the hardcore stuff as more brave and exciting.
I'm sure lot of those people have a good time but I'm not gonna fake it. I honestly just can't pretend I like most of what is on the list of fetishes and kinks in the game. Some I'm okay with, some I love, and plenty I hate. I just hope Lea, Bri, and Jen don't get too odd with their desires or I'm gonna have no one to romance. Lol for the most part I feel like if I was in the game I would drawn to them. The 3 of them combined sum up my personality. Working all the time, trying to accomplish something, lots of body shaming done to me ruining my self image and chances with relationships. And ultimately me become mad at other people's who are in relationships and ruin them just for drama or boredom. Culminating with me being alone for over 15 years.
But at least I haven't given up.