Hi, Amberbaum!
Yes, I suppose one of the problems with Chinese families are the traditions? There are good ones, but there are also some questionable ones... Like, we must be filial and follow the parents' rules without questioning right or wrong. Which is why I wanted for us to buy a house and pay instalments instead of living with the in laws. But when he said he wanted to inherit the store, which is right next door and promised that his mother won't be so overbearing, I compromised--which is a mistake.
I trusted him, but he never stood up for me when it involved his mom. One problem led to another, and when he kept underestimating said problems/tell me to ignore it (even when the relatives talk bad about him). I exploded.
After everything is said and done, he has made his choice and I've come to accept that some things are just not meant to be...
Still, I must say I'm pretty lucky. I have a lot of people supporting me, especially here, where I kept coming back to re-read all your comments :') It gave me strength and here I am, picking up the pieces and hopefully, I'll come back stronger.
Thanks again, Amberbaum!
xoxo,
SweetChiel