Well, it's nice that they reached out to hear your side of the story and didn't just disregard the situation. Still, family is complicated, and it can be difficult dealing with your own relatives even when you know they are wrong. Still, I think this boils down to something very simple: the relationship between you and your ex-husband. It seems forever changed. When it came down to it, he was unwilling to compromise for you or to fight for you. You have shown reflection (when you explained what you could have done better, etc) and he hasn't shown any reflection at all. His "whatever" comment certainly makes it seem like he doesn't even want the relationship back, more that he feels pressured by family to try again. I don't know how you feel about him now, but can you honestly say you are still in love with him? Not care for, not even love, but in love. And if the answer is no, then I think you know what comes next. If the answer is yes, then it's worth pursuing the possibility of reconciliation, but only if he is all in. If he's not, then the relationship will never move forward and you will wind up hurt again. As you said, God has a plan. The best thing you can do is pray about it. :) And also make sure you eat plenty and drink lots of water, too! Good luck finishing up Chapter 2 Part 2!
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Hey, SweetChiel! Sorry it took me so long to respond. I read your other responses but I didn't have a chance to sit down and formulate my thoughts until recently, but now it feels like those words are no longer necessary and it's better to move forward. I am so happy that you are feeling a bit better. It's natural to feel sad about this type of situation for a long time, but that you don't feel regret is key. In so many ways, you are back where you were before, but also somewhere completely new. You have this experience now, and can use it for positive growth and change. As long as you are happy, that's all the matters. I'm cheering for you!! And right back at you - don't YOU forget to skip your meals, drink lots, and smile! :)
Hey, just wanted you to know that the "theakinetics" link from the Mind Burst entry is broken.
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I'm sorry, but an uncaught exception occurred.
While running game code:
File "renpy/common/00gamemenu.rpy", line 173, in script
$ ui.interact()
File "renpy/common/00gamemenu.rpy", line 173, in <module>
$ ui.interact()
File "renpy/common/00defaults.rpy", line 197, in hyperlink_function
return config.hyperlink_handlers[protocol](value)
File "renpy/common/00defaults.rpy", line 167, in showmenu_handler
renpy.run(ShowMenu(value))
File "renpy/common/00action_menu.rpy", line 107, in __call__
raise Exception("%r is not a screen or a label." % orig_screen)
Exception: u'wiki_theakinetic' is not a screen or a label.
-- Full Traceback ------------------------------------------------------------
Full traceback:
File "renpy/common/00gamemenu.rpy", line 173, in script
$ ui.interact()
File "renpy/ast.py", line 928, in execute
renpy.python.py_exec_bytecode(self.code.bytecode, self.hide, store=self.store)
File "renpy/python.py", line 2245, in py_exec_bytecode
exec(bytecode, globals, locals)
File "renpy/common/00gamemenu.rpy", line 173, in <module>
$ ui.interact()
File "renpy/ui.py", line 298, in interact
rv = renpy.game.interface.interact(roll_forward=roll_forward, **kwargs)
File "renpy/display/core.py", line 3325, in interact
repeat, rv = self.interact_core(preloads=preloads, trans_pause=trans_pause, pause=pause, pause_start=pause_start, **kwargs)
File "renpy/display/core.py", line 4160, in interact_core
rv = root_widget.event(ev, x, y, 0)
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 1102, in event
rv = i.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, cst)
File "renpy/display/transition.py", line 48, in event
return self.new_widget.event(ev, x, y, st) # E1101
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 1102, in event
rv = i.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, cst)
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 1102, in event
rv = i.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, cst)
File "renpy/display/screen.py", line 727, in event
rv = self.child.event(ev, x, y, st)
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 1102, in event
rv = i.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, cst)
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 273, in event
rv = d.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, st)
File "renpy/display/viewport.py", line 299, in event
rv = super(Viewport, self).event(ev, x, y, st)
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 273, in event
rv = d.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, st)
File "renpy/display/layout.py", line 1102, in event
rv = i.event(ev, x - xo, y - yo, cst)
File "renpy/text/text.py", line 2024, in event
rv = self.style.hyperlink_functions[1](target)
File "renpy/common/00defaults.rpy", line 197, in hyperlink_function
return config.hyperlink_handlers[protocol](value)
File "renpy/common/00defaults.rpy", line 167, in showmenu_handler
renpy.run(ShowMenu(value))
File "renpy/display/behavior.py", line 330, in run
return action(*args, **kwargs)
File "renpy/common/00action_menu.rpy", line 107, in __call__
raise Exception("%r is not a screen or a label." % orig_screen)
Exception: u'wiki_theakinetic' is not a screen or a label.
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Ren'Py 7.4.11.2266
Gilded Shadows 1.0
Fri Sep 30 14:02:53 2022
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Oh no, that's awful... I can't believe he would go to such an extreme so quickly. I'm so sorry. :( I know I don't know him and so this might not be fair to say, but it really seems like he just expects you to fall in line with his way of life. That's not a marriage, not a partnership. That's controlling another person.
Don't blame yourself and don't take on the disappointment you are worried others might feel about this situation. You've already done everything you can to work things out. You've made so many compromises for your marriage. You cannot help that he is unwilling to do the same. Just because you married him does not mean that you have to suffer in a situation that is so one-sided and mentally unhealthy. You expected to enter into a partnership when you married him, and that is not what he is giving you.
I don't know what will happen next, but please don't compromise one more thing for someone who isn't willing to do the same for you. I realize you don't want to give up yet (of course you don't, he is your husband), but if he is willing to so easily give you up, isn't going to put any real effort into resolving things with you, is going to always prioritize his mother over his wife, then as you said...how is he your husband?
Please don't worry about us and Bermuda. We could never be disappointed with you. We know you love this project and will always fight for it, but right now you have to take care of your own health. You are going through so much right now. It's completely understandable that you need some time to process everything and deal with it all. You are a bright, sweet, talented, kind, creative, beautiful person, and I really hope you will be able to find a way forward that makes you happy!
Hmmm, this is difficult... :( Drastic measures are obviously a last resort. Hopefully we can figure it out!
If you don't mind my asking, what are some of your husband's qualities that made you want to marry him in the first place? Maybe there's something there that can help figure out the best way to deal with this.
This is a silly and simplified example, but let's pretend that your husband needs to move a heavy box that he can't lift by himself, and you are the only person around to help him. He asks for your help, but you don't want to risk chipping a nail, so you tell him that you won't help him carry it, but you will cheer him on from the sides. Well, your husband needs to move the box. Cheering him on won't help him do that. You are basically doing nothing to help him while claiming that you are helping by doing the thing most comfortable for you. That is basically what he is doing to you. You are asking for his help and he is refusing to help you while still being satisfied that he is doing his part. You have come up with multiple ways that he can help you, and he refuses to do a single one of them. How is that being supportive? It's not!
Him saying that it's family tradition to complain about someone and ignore the problem, well...isn't that what he's doing to you right now? Ignoring your problems? I would make it clear to him that is not a family tradition you are willing to inherit for your future family with him, so that should be the last time he says that kind of nonsense to you. (It really makes me so mad when men think that the best solution is to ignore something and expect you to go along with it. My husband has also said stupid things like that. I told him if he wanted to live his life like that, he shouldn't have married me, because it's not happening.)
You are absolutely right that your mental health is important. If he expects you to live in that house and go along with this new life they have thrust upon you, then he needs to start making compromises to make it mentally healthy for you to do so. From how you've explained things, you have made all the compromises in this marriage so far - you moved into a new home, took on a new job, take care of him, etc - so what is he compromising for you?
I think your idea to move out together to make your own family is a great idea and would help solve a lot of issues. Did he explain why he refuses to move out?
Don't be sorry! You're going through a lot and I'm happy to lend an ear! It's difficult to know the best advice to give without knowing all the people involved, so I'm not sure if this will be helpful or not but...
I have had this issue with my husband, too, where he doesn't see his behavior as a big deal, or will say, "I'll try to do better" but then puts no effort into it. I decided to put it in simple terms for him: if I have a problem with something he does that he has no conviction over, he should respect my perspective and work with me to fix it. That is what being a supportive spouse is all about. You have told your husband that you are concerned for your future because of his behavior and he is not respecting your perspective by dismissing your concerns and ignoring your request. By not taking you seriously, he is already proving your concerns valid! I told my husband, "I have explained my perspective to you in very clear terms. I'm not being unreasonable. I am not asking you to spend a bunch of money. I am asking you to change your behavior because it is hurtful and rude, and even though you don't care, I DO, so if you love me and respect me, you will work hard on this because it matters to me." And to his credit, he did work on it. It wasn't an overnight change and it isn't perfect, but he's made a lot of progress. I offered to help him work on it with gentle reminders if he promised not to get annoyed or ignore me, and that helped us both. Maybe if you lay it out for your husband like that, he will be more willing to consider his approach. Or maybe you already have and it didn't work out.
I have found that as long as I make what I want and/or expect from my husband super clear, he is usually really responsive to it, even if it takes him a minute to get there. Hopefully, your husband will be, too. You are newlyweds, and that first year introduces a lot of changes and friction, but in the end, you married because you love each other! Hopefully that means that he will be willing to work it out. It just might take him awhile to get there.
As for your mother-in-law, I'm afraid there's no easy answer. I think you have to make it clear that you want to be part of the family and that you respect her house, but that you come from a different environment with different expectations, and that you have to draw boundaries for your own happiness. You have compromised a lot by joining his household and changing many things about your life to be a good wife, daughter-in-law, and worker, but it's not right for you to compromise everything, or to be the only one making compromises. I know it's hard to draw a line with in-laws, but the earlier in the relationship you do it, the easier it will be to create a new and healthier dynamic.
And definitely inform your husband that you need him to support you when it comes to her and not tell you useless advice like "ignore her", because obviously that's not possible. That's just rude! She's family now. Besides, when there's turmoil, women tend to carry it around with them, adding stress and anxiety to our lives when most men seem capable of ignoring it when they don't have to deal with it. We aren't like that. It's important for him to understand that and support you the way you need to be supported, not the way he thinks you need.
Anyway, I typed a lot... Sorry! >_< I'm doubtful that any of this was very helpful, but I'd be happy to listen and chat with you anytime you need it! I really hope that you will be able to find a solution that works for you and makes you happy. It's a difficult situation to navigate and I'm really glad that you have a place to go to get some space instead of being trapped in an uncomfortable situation. And I'm really excited that you are able to get some work on the game done! It's something you love to do, something positive to focus on when things in your personal life aren't going the way you planned. It's good to have that. I'm cheering you on!
That first year of marriage is always the toughest, especially when you are entering into a new living situation. I can imagine that living with your in-laws would be so, so difficult. I am sure you and your husband will work everything out soon, but I am hoping it is a speedy resolution because fighting with your spouse is the worst feeling! Maybe creating some distance between you will help clear your minds so you can both put everything into perspective more quickly. I'm glad you have that option to go back home. :) Congrats on all the progress you've been able to make! Always cheering you on from this corner of the world, for your game and for your life!
You look so beautiful!! Everyone just looks so gorgeous! I'm so happy for you that you were able to have your special day, especially after everything you went through to get there. I wish you and your husband happiness and health, and of course a home filled with love! Please take your time as you get to know your new home dynamic. :) And thank you for sharing your pictures and journey with us! We will continue look forward to your updates, as always!
I'm so glad everything was repaired and you are back in your groove! Welcome back! :) As for the puzzle, it doesn't look too dark to me, but it's hard to say without actually trying it. I definitely think you should leave it as it is to set the tone and pace you are aiming for. However, if you think it may be too hard, you could add a setting to maybe auto-complete the puzzle for players that are struggling with it?
Awww, you both look so exquisite in your wedding attire! And such a beautiful location. Stone Garden also sounds lovely. That's quite the journey, though, and I'm glad you made it! You have such a wonderful, positive attitude about it all, even the hiccups, and that's so wonderful. :) I'm so happy for you!
This is your wedding you're talking about! You will treasure these photos (and the memories you spent with your loved ones) for a lifetime, so pleeeaaaase, take all the time you need! :) Stay safe, healthy, and good luck with those nails! They sure are pretty, but they are a real pain to use a keyboard with. :T
Like everyone else here, I just want to tell you that I really loved this gem of a game. I was hesitant at first because I've never been a fan of messenger-style VNs, but everyone was gushing about it and I knew I had to give it a shot. I'm so glad that I did. It was so incredibly special. Setting it up as a Discord-like server was such a great approach and was executed wonderfully, and you handled the delicate balance of identity vs autonomy with amazing skill.
I dearly loved all three romances and thought the VAs did a wonderful job, though Toasty was my favorite (and that's not just because I am also a huge FFXIV nerd). Each route walked a new path, so it was always fresh while still being the same server with the same group of loveable friends and fans. The story progression of the routes was so well-paced, and the climax was very satisfying and on-point.
While I loved the story and the romances, the part of this game that shined the most for me was the rest of the cast. All of their personalities were so varied, distinct, and realistic that I constantly found myself thinking, "I know him. I know her. Yep, I know that one, too." They made me laugh, they made me love them, they made me believe they were real people and wish dearly for our friendship to continue long after the credits rolled.
Thanks for sharing this wonderful game with us, and I am so looking forward to seeing it expanded with xyx and any other content you might have planned!
I'm so sorry that conditions have worsened to the point that you had to put off your wedding until next year. That's really rough and you must be so disappointed! :( But hopefully, it means that next year, it will be even more wonderful than originally planned! Also, I'm so glad you've had some success with your workout! I know it's tough... [My cat also likes to interfere with my full body workout, too, haha! Pets are so silly. They just want to be part of the fun. :P] But I'm glad you've been able to see some improvements. They will get even better! I promise! :) I am cheering for you!
Hello! I've never posted here before, but I read all of your updates! I really enjoyed Legend of the Winged Ones and can't wait for Bermuda Triangle. :) I decided to post today because I was recently in a similar position where I was determined to change my lifestyle and get active, so I was wondering if you have considered trying a full body exercise program. From what I've learned, it's better for you than straight cardio, and I've seen results in my strength and stamina from doing it just three times a week!
I wanted to share with you the program I've been doing with Abby because it's really been working for me and it's nice to have a place to start (but please know that I'm not affiliated with her at all, just a happy customer). Her website has workout plans, an eating guide, and resistance bands to purchase, but you probably want to see if it's something you are even interested in doing first. Her youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbj4Q-3Lesu4a77bnb9MQcA has lots of exercise routines and warmups that you can do for free, at home, and requires little to no equipment. Almost all of the equipment she uses can be substituted for household items, though having a "light" pair of dumbbells (5 lbs) and a "heavy" pair (10-12 lbs) is recommended, and she often provides beginner modifications to each exercise if it's tough. Often, I just do what I can, and work up to the full move over time. For example, she does a split squat that goes all the way to the ground, but that was too tough for me, so I would go halfway or three-quarters of the way, so that I can do all of the reps. Eventually, I was able to go all the way to the ground! It's about finding your pace and what works for you. You can even pair it with some cardio if you want, or do one of her cardio workouts. Also, I'm not into social media, but if you are, she posts pretty good recipes from time to time that are both healthy and delicious.
Anyway, sorry for the long post, but since I was struggling for so long to find something that worked for me, I just like to share with others a "starting point" that might work for them, too. Maybe it won't, and that's okay. You have to find what works for you! I really hope you achieve success and wish you luck in your new journey! And also congratulations on your coming wedding! I'll go back to quietly reading your updates, but know that I am cheering for you, your fitness journey, your happiness, and your game's completion. :)
Hello! My name is Ashley and I am entering otomejam for the first time this year with a cyberpunk visual novel about these agents called couriers who move sensitive data offline for paying customers. They traverse their concrete jungle with the help of high-tech neural enhancing bodysuits called ZERO-suits, or "jackets" on the street. The MC, codenamed Skylark, works for a courier company called The Aviary. Her day has been like any other until, on the way to meet a friend, she encounters an unsettling man who broke into a data collection outpost and stole a data spike. After reclaiming it, her world is tilted upside down as strangers suddenly flood her life with information that changes everything.
The MC is codenamed Skylark, though the player can input a custom first and last name. They will be able to choose between four sprite models to represent their courier.
Romantic Interests:
- Marcus Valera, codenamed Cardinal: Skylark's partner. Cardinal is a tall, muscular man who is both tough and playful.
- Ashraf Sarraf, nicknamed Ash: Skylark's nerdy friend. Ash is a soft-spoken, socially awkward guy who is good with tech.
- Liam: a mysterious stranger who confronts Skylark with an uncomfortable truth about the ZERO-suit and her future.
Plus, there are a handful of other characters, friends and enemies alike.
What I Have:
I have used artbreeder for a bulk of the artwork, which includes concept-style cityscapes and sprites, and realistic portraits used as side images. I decided to try it out to see if it would work, and I thought the art looked surprisingly nice together. There is an unfinished quality to the artwork that works for the genre.
Currently, I have all of the sprites and their side image portraits, and all of the cityscape backgrounds. The script is still a work in progress, though the story is planned out, and I intend to code the game using Ren'py.
What I'm Looking For:
- A GUI artist to create a custom GUI for the game. I have some ideas already, but I am completely open to new designs. I was thinking something clean and simple.
- A background artist! It's my hope to have the backgrounds match the unpolished/concept art style of the cityscapes I built in artbreeder. I will need 6-10 BGs.
- A CG artist. Having their style match the unpolished/concept art style of the backgrounds and sprites would be neat, but also not necessary. CGs less than 10.
- A composer. It would be really awesome to have some custom tracks to properly set the tone of the story.
Because this is for otomejam, all of the roles are strictly volunteer. If you're interested at all in the project and would like to be involved, even if you don't fit into any of the listed roles, I would love to hear from you. It would be great to have partners on this project in any capacity! If you would like to learn more or join up, comment below or message me on Discord at Red#6095.
This game was truly amazing. I have only played one route so far but I was hooked. It is beautifully drawn, wonderfully written, and I am in love with all the variety and systems you have worked into this. I can't wait to play through more routes and unlock even more of the story. Truly, this game is a masterpiece. Thank you so much for your hard work and for sharing this gem with us.