Well, it's nice that they reached out to hear your side of the story and didn't just disregard the situation. Still, family is complicated, and it can be difficult dealing with your own relatives even when you know they are wrong. Still, I think this boils down to something very simple: the relationship between you and your ex-husband. It seems forever changed. When it came down to it, he was unwilling to compromise for you or to fight for you. You have shown reflection (when you explained what you could have done better, etc) and he hasn't shown any reflection at all. His "whatever" comment certainly makes it seem like he doesn't even want the relationship back, more that he feels pressured by family to try again. I don't know how you feel about him now, but can you honestly say you are still in love with him? Not care for, not even love, but in love. And if the answer is no, then I think you know what comes next. If the answer is yes, then it's worth pursuing the possibility of reconciliation, but only if he is all in. If he's not, then the relationship will never move forward and you will wind up hurt again. As you said, God has a plan. The best thing you can do is pray about it. :) And also make sure you eat plenty and drink lots of water, too! Good luck finishing up Chapter 2 Part 2!
True, it's anything but simple. My mom also speak the same, that my ex-husband is still they key in this matter. But if you ask me, the more time passes, it only becomes clearer that the man is too prideful/has no intention to fight for me :')
If you ask me whether I still love him or not... no. It feels more like I'm taking responsibilities now rather than acting out of love. When the relatives asked me, I also told them to ask my ex-husband first because I won't accept 'whatever' as an answer and like you said, only if he's all in :'D
Thanks again, scriptomancer <3