she hasnt talked in like forever an everytime i try it says she didn't respond or sumn like that

Try talking to her daily, after 3-5 days you should be able to start her up.

If she literally does not speak nor react nor anything, its the start of the game, later on she speaks with little to no charm but later on as the story goes on she changes. If its later on then perhaps she is upset by either lack of sex or maybe a nickname she doesnt like