so gay means happy, while the q slur means weird and unnatural. your reasoning of "if its not used as an insult its fine" does not hold any weight, would you say the same for the nword? black people reclaimed it and call eachother it all the time, and why'd you give my simple "hey pls don't use a slur" comment so much power? Me asking for lgb people not to be called weird and unnatural is erasing lgb history?
As a gay person, I, personally am very weird and unnatural.
If you don't like using the word to refer to yourself, that's fine. But you shouldn't ask other people not to use it, especially if they're a random stranger on the internet, because they get to choose what they refer to themself as. Unless it's in person and it makes you uncomfortable, but this is something you don't have to engage in.